Consult the Experts

Consult the Experts

20 Ways to Change Your Story

10. Consult the Experts

One sure-fire way to inject new life into your story is to consult with the experts about the places where you’re stuck and to get their guidance and advice for moving forward.

And I’m not talking about doctors, therapists, coaches or people who are successfully living the story you’d like to be living, even though those are definitely valuable resources and you will benefit from calling on them as needed.

What if I told you that you have a whole team of experts, 100% devoted to you?

Their services are free of charge and literally at your fingertips 24/7.

I’m talking about your Inner Experts, a team which includes your
Inner Experts

  • Higher Self
  • Future Self
  • Inner Child
  • Body & Body Parts

as well as specialists such as your

  • Inner Nurturer
  • Inner Protector
  • Inner Einstein
  • Inner Spiritual Advisor
  • Inner Business Coach
  • Inner Organizer
  • Inner Millionaire
  • etc.

These experts are ready and waiting to hear from you. You can bring any question or struggle to them and access their wisdom any time you choose. They want only one thing in return and that is your love and attention.

They want to be recognized and appreciated.

A great way to access this bounty of inner wisdom is by carrying out a dialogue with the inner expert of your choice.

You can do this by quieting your mind and getting into a meditative state. Invite a specific inner expert to have a conversation with you, or state your intention to get help with your specific need or desire and invite whichever inner expert who’d like to offer that help to join you.

Now, once you become adept at this, you may be able to carry on this dialogue in your head or through automatic writing. It’s often easier, particularly in the beginning, to use a form of written dialogue using both hands to write.

JournalingStart by writing down you current concern. What is it you want guidance, advice, help or direction about? You may even want to draw a little picture of the situation.

Now, ask your inner expert questions by writing them down with your dominant hand (the hand you normally write with). Then let the inner expert answer through your non-dominant hand (the one you don’t normally write with). You may be astounded at the answers that come through.

Here are some useful questions to get the dialogue going:

  • Who (or what) are you?
  • How do you feel?
  • Why do you feel this way?
  • What can I do for you? (or what do you need from me?)
  • Is there anything else you’d like me to know?

You can always ask other questions as well – whatever you’d like to know. Remember, this is YOU asking and the inner expert answering.

When you have completed your dialogue, remember to thank the inner expert for talking to you. And honor the requests it made of you or the suggestions it gave you. The more love, attention and appreciation you give to your inner experts, the more willing they will be to share their wisdom with you.

Let’s say you are experiencing some neck pain. Here’s an example dialogue to illustrate the process.

Current Concern: My neck has really been bothering me for a few days now. I don’t know what’s causing it or how to stop the pain and stiffness I’m feeling.

OuchieGrouchieDominant Hand (DH): Dear Pain-In-The-Neck, who or what are you?

Non-Dominant Hand (NDH): I am Ouchie. Ouchie Grouchie.

DH: How do you feel?

NDH: Cramped and tight and angry.

DH: Why do you feel this way?

NDH: Because you ignore me. You spend all day on the computer leaning forward so I have to hold your big head up awkwardly. Every day this happens! I’m sick and tired of it.

DH: What can I do for you?

NDH: Get up and stretch. Walk around. Don’t sit so long. And don’t lean forward all the time. Sit back with your back on the chair. Give me some support. Give me a break!

DH: Is there anything else you’d like me to know?

NDH: A nice cool ice pack would feel really good right now.

DH: Thank you, Ouchie Grouchie. I can see that I haven’t been treating my neck very well. I promise not to sit for more than an hour at a time without getting up to walk around and stretch. And I will remember to sit back and to let the chair back help you to support my head. Now, let’s go get that ice pack.


This is the 11th post in a 21-post series sparked by Chapter 9 of Fallen, The Adventures of a Deep Water Leaf, in which Lizard suggests that Alora change her story.

#20WaysIn20Days, #ChangeYourStory, #Fallen

Deep Water What?

Deep Water What?

So, I have published two books now and they both have “Deep Water Leaf” in the title.

Wait. Deep Water What?

What in the world is a “deep water leaf”?

That’s exactly what I set out to answer in my newest book, Fallen – The Adventures of a Deep Water Leaf.

Believe me, the answer has been years in coming – decades even.

It began with a dream I had in 1997 (20 years ago! how can that be?).

In my dream, my four month old baby has died. I am distraught, inconsolable, raw with grief. At the memorial service for the child, a gift of a spiritual insight is given to me, planted like a seed in my mind. “You will create the Deep Water Leaf Society, and by doing so you will heal your pain and the pain of many others.” Somehow, that simple message gives me peace within the dream.

But I awakened in the morning feeling deeply disturbed, with tears streaming down my face. I didn’t know what the death of this four month old dream baby might represent. None of my own children were still babies. But my oldest child, 19 at the time, was born in April, the fourth month of the year. And he was the kind of kid I worried about constantly. I hoped the dream wasn’t some kind of omen.

Seven years later, in 2004, my son, my fourth month baby, died at age 26.

Working through my grief, the dream came back to me. And that phrase, “deep water leaf”. I had been told in the dream it was the key to healing. But what did it mean, exactly? Over the course of the two years following my son’s death, I experienced the most amazing journey of healing and awakening – filled with experiences that opened me to greater dimensions than this 4D world of time and space. This journey is chronicled in my first book, The Deep Water Leaf Society. I named it that because the story it told was of my own healing and awakening – and I hoped it might help others to heal as well. Others in that society of those who’ve known deep grief. It seemed like that was what the long ago dream had been talking about.

And yet.

It still didn’t explain the meaning of the phrase, “deep water leaf”. And that question stayed with me over the years. What exactly is a deep water leaf?

Illustration of a leaf floating on the water

Slowly, like a slow growing tree, a fairy tale began to unfold in my mind. The story of a little leaf that falls from a big, big tree into a watery world she does not understand. And her answers are not to be found on the surface, but only in The Deep.

For a long time, the basic premise raised more questions than it answered. Little glimmers sifted through my brain like sunlight through the leaves of a tree. Animal characters appeared in my dreams and in my journaling. Little tidbits of insight, but nothing coherent. And then, suddenly, over the course of a weekend writing retreat, it all came together. The arc of the story line, the main players, a clear beginning, middle and end. It was a bare bones story, but it was complete. And it was “downloaded” more than written by me.

Over the course of the following year, I fleshed out the characters, filled in the gaps in the story line, revised and edited. Oh, and I learned how to draw so I could illustrate the story.

So what is a “deep water leaf”? It’s someone who’s learned to dive deep and dream true. Someone who has awakened and remembered who they really are.

And how does someone become a “deep water leaf”?

No spoilers here. You’ll have to read the story to find out.