Follow Love

Follow Love

20 Ways to Change Your Story

13. Follow Love

In chapter ten of Fallen, The Adventures of a Deep Water Leaf, Deer talks to Alora about love and fear:

Do you see how fear makes the world smaller and love expands it? How love makes you brave and overcomes fear? Fear separates you from the truth of who you are. And the truth of who you are is love. ~ Deer

Your bigger, bolder, brighter story will always emerge through love, not fear. The more you can choose to act from love, the more amazing your story can become.

But what would love do? How can you tell what the loving choice is?

  • Love is inclusive, welcoming, accepting. Fear is exclusive, tribal, wall-building.
  • Love shares. Fear hoards.
  • Love stretches boundaries. Fear holds tight to status quo.
  • Love sees what’s working. Fear sees what’s broken.
  • Love steps forward into possibilities. Fear runs away or freezes.
  • Love values you and finds you worthy. Fear sells you short and makes you feel unworthy.
  • Love expands. Fear contracts.

WhitherGoestMyHeartWhen faced with a decision, try this little meditation:

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Center your breathing into your heart and take a few more deep heart breaths. Feel the air moving, in and out, as if it were flowing through your heart.

Now, imagine you are standing at a fork in the road. To your left, the path travels into the future created by making decision “A” and to the right the path travels into the future created by making decision “B”. Which of the two paths feels more expansive?

You can feel the expansiveness or the contraction within your heart space and perhaps within other parts of your body.

  • Do you feel your shoulders falling back and your chest opening up? Expansion.
  • Do you feel your shoulders rolling forward and your body curling in on itself? Contraction.
  • Do you feel a flutter of excitement in your belly? Expansion.
  • Do you feel a knot or nausea in your belly? Contraction

Your body will have its own signals. Learn to listen to them so they can help you choose the path of love.

When you step forward in love you may still feel fear. It doesn’t have to hold you back. Love will help you to step through your fear and move you into a bigger story than you may ever have imagined.


This is the 14th post in a 21-post series sparked by Chapter 9 of Fallen, The Adventures of a Deep Water Leaf, in which Lizard suggests that Alora change her story.

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$90,000 Rolex

$90,000 Rolex

m326933-0001This morning I dreamed we gave Cameron
a $90,000 Rolex
with a broken watch band
that we’d found somewhere
and counted as our lottery win,
our ticket forward.

Yet we handed it over to Cameron
so he could marry his girl
and have his own future.

I don’t think the dream’s about dollars, though.
It could be about time.
About the 90,000 hours he’s missed of his own
this-time-around life.

Or the 90,000 beats of my heart,
within not one of which he’s been absent.

Or the 90,000 bits of bone and ash
still waiting to be scattered.

Or the exponential expanse of time
he’s now experiencing.
All the time,
not just in the world,
but in the Universe
to live in love and freedom.

Or the energy of nine, which is endings
and the magnified energy of zero,
which is eternity,
and the real truth of his passing.

There was a day I would have handed over $90,000
or 9 times $90,000
to buy his happiness.

But happiness is an inside job,
not to be bought, but created
day by day,
heartbeat by heartbeat,
tick by tick of this $90,000 Rolex we call life.

He taught me that
through the grief of his leaving.


in memory of
Cameron David Perkins
4/2/1978 ~ 5/3/2004