The What If Game

The What If Game

20 Ways to Change Your Story

14. The “What If” Game

doubt-1160744_1920I’m going to be honest here – sometimes I get stuck in “I don’t know.” Maybe you do, too . . .

I don’t know what I want. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what matters. And a big one:

I don’t know why this is happening to me!

All those “I don’t knows” can stop me dead in my tracks. It feels like there’s only one right answer, and I don’t have it, and if I take action from the space of the WRONG answer, things will just get worse. So, I don’t act. And then I’m even more stuck. And then I shake my head, sigh and say, “I don’t know.”

But, what if I DID know?

This is a great game to play. It can trigger fresh brainstorming. Fresh heartstorming, too. It can shake things up and open me to new possibilities.

What if . . .

What if I did know? What might the answer be? I can do some journaling with this question, or I can incubate a dream by writing the question down before I go to sleep and asking my dreams to answer.

What if my Higher Self knows? I can do some Visioning® or dialoguing to find out.

What if my Soul chose this for me? What might some reasons be?

What if there were gifts in this? What might those gifts be?

What if this is moving me in a new direction? What might that direction be?

What if I could choose to do ANYTHING I want about this? What would I do?

What if I knew someone who had the answers I need? Can I seek them out for a heart to heart?

What if I knew what I DIDN’T want? Would that shed some light on what I do want?

What if money, time, age, or any other perceived restrictions were no issue? What would I choose then?

The point of “what if” is you don’t have to know anything or believe anything. You can simply suspend disbelief, like you do when you go to a movie or read fiction. You don’t have to come up with answers that make sense or feel doable. You can just dream your way into magical, pie-in-the-sky, no limits answers.

And maybe within those answers you’ll find some new awareness and inspiration for small steps that can move you forward.

I don’t know. But what if I did?


This is the 15th post in a 21-post series sparked by Chapter 9 of Fallen, The Adventures of a Deep Water Leaf, in which Lizard suggests that Alora change her story.

#20WaysIn20Days, #ChangeYourStory, #Fallen

Follow Love

Follow Love

20 Ways to Change Your Story

13. Follow Love

In chapter ten of Fallen, The Adventures of a Deep Water Leaf, Deer talks to Alora about love and fear:

Do you see how fear makes the world smaller and love expands it? How love makes you brave and overcomes fear? Fear separates you from the truth of who you are. And the truth of who you are is love. ~ Deer

Your bigger, bolder, brighter story will always emerge through love, not fear. The more you can choose to act from love, the more amazing your story can become.

But what would love do? How can you tell what the loving choice is?

  • Love is inclusive, welcoming, accepting. Fear is exclusive, tribal, wall-building.
  • Love shares. Fear hoards.
  • Love stretches boundaries. Fear holds tight to status quo.
  • Love sees what’s working. Fear sees what’s broken.
  • Love steps forward into possibilities. Fear runs away or freezes.
  • Love values you and finds you worthy. Fear sells you short and makes you feel unworthy.
  • Love expands. Fear contracts.

WhitherGoestMyHeartWhen faced with a decision, try this little meditation:

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Center your breathing into your heart and take a few more deep heart breaths. Feel the air moving, in and out, as if it were flowing through your heart.

Now, imagine you are standing at a fork in the road. To your left, the path travels into the future created by making decision “A” and to the right the path travels into the future created by making decision “B”. Which of the two paths feels more expansive?

You can feel the expansiveness or the contraction within your heart space and perhaps within other parts of your body.

  • Do you feel your shoulders falling back and your chest opening up? Expansion.
  • Do you feel your shoulders rolling forward and your body curling in on itself? Contraction.
  • Do you feel a flutter of excitement in your belly? Expansion.
  • Do you feel a knot or nausea in your belly? Contraction

Your body will have its own signals. Learn to listen to them so they can help you choose the path of love.

When you step forward in love you may still feel fear. It doesn’t have to hold you back. Love will help you to step through your fear and move you into a bigger story than you may ever have imagined.


This is the 14th post in a 21-post series sparked by Chapter 9 of Fallen, The Adventures of a Deep Water Leaf, in which Lizard suggests that Alora change her story.

#20WaysIn20Days, #ChangeYourStory, #Fallen